Life is Funny > After a Year

Well, when we started off being bz with all the work and commitments time flies like no one's business. Suddenly you left your blog for a rest and 1 year has gone. 1 year of total blindness of what have happen and would need you to look at the photos to remind yourself what actually happened last Christmas.  

Life is funny in such a way that things happens to you when you are not prepared for it, things or shits always comes when you are super down with stuffs. For example, when your budget this month are tight. This is the time your car broke down and need a 1k dollar repair or suddenly you need a pair of running shoes cause you need to lose weight and jogging is the only option , your ipad screen broke, your mum's birthday. and all the stuff that could lead to ultimate poverty to you. Until my friend have to use the term " EAT GRASS" because he bought the Metallica's concert tickets and have no money to survive, (but he'll survive) no worries.

This is the time your GF is courted by her boss, how fuckup can things go? Well they say if you done lots of good thing in life and you will be re payed by good things but, as the book "Why bad things happens to good people" stated that , you are given such situations because you are chosen to lead or overcome something more fuckup in future and this is just a small lesson to get you through. I'm like , WTF?? I'm good then i have to go and get this bad egg? come on man, so what the bad guys get? good things? After reading that book make me realize that whatever the fuck you do in this life or whatever have no counter backs. I mean if you do good, you'll get good. Shit will happens, and that's the funny story about it.

My 1 year have passed, things happens and i learn from all of it. My lesson is accept and learn from all the shits that happen and try not to repeat them. Cause if you repeat them then you might not get it and overcome it or you are just fuckin stupid. If you don't do anything today to improve whatever you are doing, make desicions. then my friend you'll be the same old you 5 years from now. Being the same , staying the same. Some actually like being the same all the time, and wish they die being the same like some scooby do cartoons.

 The Same, it's Lame.

So friend, Make a Change to the man in the mirror..

Losing it All....

Are you the man of your words?

Do you cared about what other people say about you?

Are you doing the things in life that you wanted for yourself?

I’m a Chinese man from a Chinese cultured family, so as my dad, so as my grandfather, so as my mum, so as her parents and families. Chinese are full with customs, don’t cut your nails at night or don’t point at the moon…superstitions…bunch of them. I guess other cultures too…

But in this modern world, human tend to go back and search for their true selves. Meaning to say that everyone now wanted to do what they wanted even it is against their culture or families’ best practices. For example me, I’m from a family that everyone needs to work hard and long to earn money so you can have a car , a house and a family of your own to be successful in the bigger family and consider accepted. It makes sense for me when I’m still in the small world of my own, but it gets funny when I grew older and made discoveries over time. You don’t have to do that, that is just a trend that the industrial ages made up to protect the rich being richer and the middle class to continue produce middle working class people for them to work. My dad is a middleclass working class guy, a pure one. He works and spend, but I can see that he wanted to get out of the circle in that rat race but failed a few times and I think that he put up the white flag, to me it is because he did not invest his time to study well in how to do business and just invest in money and hope everything to turn out right, that is the reason why every 90% of new companies closed down after 3 years.

Back to the culture story, here I am achieving everything I could. 2 cars, a house, a family, so now? Now what? Can I go do what I want to do?(sit down and play guitar everyday?) No..i can’t I’m so into the culture stuff that even that I knew but it seems that I wanted to be….to have all that to feel better. Can I just lose it all, travel to Tibet and be a monk? Can you lose everything you have now?

Will you?

Can you give up everything when you are half way through?

What will happen if you really do it? Will you live another life? DO you have courage to make this change? If you can’t change from listening to pop songs to heavy metal, how can you change your life? Can you stop smoking overnight?

Shit happens.>…But if you know how to control the shit….they might happen differently and you are prepared…Prepared to accept the Shits………

Shits can be cruel…shit can be hot or cold…. They can fuckup your life any way they want and if you let them let loose….You’re in a lot of trouble…

So now what? 

Give peace a chance? 

John Lennon? 

Yoko Ono? 

Or plain Paul? 

Money or life? 

Definite Chief Aim

I heard this in Napoleon hill's Book, The Law Of Success.
He said that if we have a goal, we will be better in achieving it rather then to float around the world aimlessly. It's such a waste of time and yet time is not much for a person to live.

My Boss , once told me a way to set goals in life. She said, when you turn 70 and died. In your funeral you would have your spouse and friend or relatives talked about you, talking about your personality and the way of life you have been going through. So the question is....

What would you want them to say?

You might say, i'm already dead. How am i suppose to tell them? Yes we can control what would be coming out from their minds that day, when the day comes of course. For example....

If you want your wife/husband to speak of you as a loving husband/wife and a friendly and kind person. Well.... you need to be that person starting today. All of that , that you want them to say on that day, will be your goals in life.
Just like "Tuesday with Morrie" taught us. "When we are dying , we learn how to live." So imagine that day, what you want them to say, then make that your definite chief aims starting today... Not tomorrow... Today..

(Now or Never)

There's too many things to explore and see in this life... You would not want to wander all and get nothing in the end. You would want to know what you want in life and make it your aim, then achieve it. When you achieve it, you would most satisfy and die a happy man..for money is not the most important thing in life and yet the importancy is only a limit from our onw minds. Our minds which sets the limits of the sky and the world.

So know what you want.

Get a plan to achieve it.

Consistently moving towards it

Achieve it.

(easy like 1 2 3 ?)

Cybernetic Gorilla Vs Old Age

Heard of the death of my friend’s grandfather, RIP age 100+.

I always visit my wife’s grandmother aged 100+, when I looked at her, paying attention to her movements and the way she looked at people. It seems that she have gone back into childhood. Way back from childhood, like a baby. When the time that we can’t survive on our own. That we need to depend on people for our existence.  She can’t walk on her own, she can’t see properly, her memory system is full thus she can’t remember or recall anything. Just like an old PC, hard disk are taking a long time to read and store and memory is always full.

I reflect it to myself, how a strong and healthy man like me can 1 day be old and will need to depend on people to survive. Now I can live all by myself, I can survive and with no one’s help I can live through only to find myself alone and wanting a partner. But still I can survive. But a baby can’t survive on it’s own, the baby need someone to take care to survive, if not he’ll die.

What if you are old, and found out that you can’t walk on your own?

Can’t  see what is in front of you, permanently?

Can’t remember what you did 2 minutes ago?

Can’t hug your loved ones?

Can’t go to the toilet by yourself?

Can’t eat by yourself?

Just waiting for life’s end while others continue on in the world that once you have journey too.

Are you afraid?

Are you afraid to get old?

Everyone will get old, so there’s no way to avoid getting old unless you did the rockstar thing. Kill yourself before you get old. SO what do you think we should do?

Appreciate Life and Enjoy it because you will get old.

Is 60 consider old? Or 80? Or 90? 100?

You retired at 55, so you got about a few years left before you can go skating youself. SO use your time wisely. Don’t  sleep so much, come out and enjoy the world, stop sitting in front of a book face website and forget about life. Get angry, get happy, get sad, get weird, get wicked , feel everything…

Before you can’t feel anything….

Acceptance is crucial in life

Whatever fuck you come across with, there’s nothing that you’ll have no solution, they say. But still in their very own lifes they still come to a crossroad, thinking of which path to take. You can either stay in that crossroad and wait as long as you can, nobody is going to fuckin tell you what to do,(sorry with the harsh words today, I’m in a boiling mood.) You can wait in that crossroad and die there and still no one is going to give a fuck.Or you can take right turn and go the path, or you can take advise from people you fuckin don’t know and make that left. The best thing in that is you will still end up in another crossroad. Then another then another…just like the Gods is playing fuckin tricks on you, like you are playing tricks on your hamster. Seeking for fuckin approval.

Yep… everybody came across that and yep.. life’s a series of events that will result on how you make decisions in every of those motherfuckers. Life is hard, it’s difficult it’s a hard blow on your nuts but HEY!....It’s life..that’s what everybody says. For me, I came across another formula X to get me through this rough times, it will happen all the time. Fuck time will happen and you are got to believe me. SO why listen or take fuckin advise from fuckin people that don’t know about your llife and still have fuckin problems with their own fuckin life?

Formula X = Accept. Accept every fuckin thing that is happening. That’s the first step for you to keep yourself …to be yourself. If you go highwire..you’re not yourself anymore. You don’t think right, you don’t care about yourself…you will only care about your emotions. Emotions will lead you to disaster.Accept every facts that happen, take a cold decision. That’s the fast and crucial way if you want to get on with your life. What have happen is gone, no point crying over spilled milk. It’s fuckin stupid. Accept and take decision and move forward.

Accept and take decision.

Stay Strong.

Things happen to you to make you realize your true potential, strength, will power, and heart. Have faith and stay strong!

I dedicate this to all of my friends that are having hard times with life right now….metal on..\m/..

The Right Thing to do is not Always the Correct thing to do!!

When you’re a little boy, you are taught to do the right thing. To make the RIGHT judgment of things, What is not right is justify as a bad thing and avoid doing it. Things that have morale and things that doesn’t harm another are to be accepted as the RIGHT thing. The good person is the one doing all the RIGHT things. The bad people are the one doing all the WRONG things. Very very simple, easy to understand and by nature it is perfect. But as I grew up and turning to be an adult.

How do you define RIGHT and what is WRONG?

Something that consider right to you may be wrong to another. People bombing the twin tower consider as bad, but in another angle of view point they are actually protecting something, protecting their pride? To me Purple may be my favorite color but to you? You may think purple is gay. Can you make a stand to state something to everyone if you think what you think is RIGHT? YES!! Only you thought, it’s only based on your point of view, true or not it’s just an opinion  and if that opinion is accepted by the group than it is consider the RIGHT thing.

In the corporate world I am living in right now, you can’t do the RIGHT things every time. If It is not correct, you may silent or pass if something you think is wrong and you may want to correct it. Because correcting something without knowing the consequences may lead to the ultimate disaster. You may be outcasted from the group, or be condemn.  Just think for a while, if you are lost in a jungle and found a small village of jungle people. They bring you in and they all are eating raw fish and hate eating cooked fish, you suddenly jumped out and tell them that they are eating the fish the wrong way and you introduce your cooking method to them, will they listen to you? I mean it is the right way to eat a fish, correct? But to them? You are consider saved by them and they accepted you in their village and now you are trying to tell them that they are fools and their way of eating are wrong? It is like spitting them in the face, it is their culture. Their believe maybe that fish are brought to them by the gods and wishes them to eat it raw, but you insulted them. You insulted their gods. You insulted their believe.

In the modern world, this situation exist. We thought that we are civilized, we thought we are on the top of the world. But we are not, we are still what we are 1 thousand years ago. We do all this to protect ourselves, We label the RIGHT thing that we consider RIGHT, we label the WRONG thing that we consider WRONG, WE . Where is the ultimate truth?

Who can ultimately judge what is right and what is wrong? 

Do we blame it to GOD?

I learn that we may only need to speak up when we are needed to, we do not need to tell someone he/she is right or wrong all the time, sometimes it is best to let them be. It will be better that way, for both parties, for everyone. If everyone in the world may hold this, there will be no war or arguments, There will be peace. But the truth is always NO. Human are born with a greed, which is the human’s ultimate weakness, even Lord Of The Ring stated Human’s weakness is Greed. The one that may overcome greed will always be happy and lead a better life and a humble one.

To survive, we need to learn when to use the so called RIGHT thing and stand for it. When it is important to use it and when it is not. 

You can do it.!! but Y U NO DO??!!

I am born into a great loving family, everyone will admit his or her family to be the best and greatest of all. Some may seems weird and odd to another but hey, What's weird? and what's odd? We only see things different when we cannot accept or comprehend, perspective of a different man may give you a different rating of one family's weirdness to another and always admit that he have a great family.
I was told many times by friends and also family members...."you can play and teach guitar, go get out of here(M'sia) and go somewhere else, NZ/Australia/wherever you may get a better life and better pay then what you can get here in M'sia. " I heard these same words again and again since i'm 18. Even my dad suggested this.
To answer them it's easy, i'm not the type that will be in a dilemma. I always make my on decision and a fast chump that decide very fast which mislead it to everyone that ask me questions. They seems to think that i did not make any effort in thinking and considering the questions but actually i have gone through it before they even think of suggesting to me.And i will always get the same feedback of my answers, Y U NO DO??? Y U SO WASTE??!! (in their heart i think and assumed that they are thinking that i'm stupid or have knowledge whatsoever)
But the truth is, this might have abit of clash concept because this is only my opinion and concept of my very own, i'm not saying that this are the rule and the correct way, if you guys that is reading and following my blog this far, i know that you are here to seek raw information and point of view from me, I thank you so much and if for you that get offended after reading this i'm so sorry in advance, remember this is only my opinion.
I do not seek for outstation work and stay because i think there's no need to. I'm born here in M'sia and i'm going to stay here even if a comet is goin to drop right next door. I love my country. I love Melaka. If i'm good enough i can make a living here, if i want to prove that i'm very good i can make a fortune here in this very place. They said that the economy is going down, the politics is corrupt , the whole place is goin worst, but for me...my point of view is..M'sia is growing, for a country to move forward and grow, these are the issues and events that need to happen. If we look at the advance countries, we look at how good and well the country is, but we did not go and find out how they become this way. How many president in USA is shot? No corruption in Japan? I'm lucky to be in a growing country where all the fun is rather than a stagnant place where everything is well done and can't go anywhere more, if you like peace and no fun you may be happy there. Anyway i'm a Malaysian, I can do whatever i want to do here, i mean the legal stuffs. I can have my own company here and it doesn't cost me high capital. I know the language here and other stuffs, imagine trying to open a company and do business in Australia? or London? can you survive? Unless you're Jimmy Choo. LOL!! You can only work as a middle class worker in other country than you're own unless again if you're JImmy Choo. LOL (again)
ONe more thing why i don want to work and live outstation, The high pay? no i don't think it's high pay when i don't get to see my family, if i'm a solo guy without anyone that i loved then i don't care what i do or where i am, but in reality, i have a family. A loving family, i wan to spend my weekends with my mum and dad, how long can a human live? if not for 80 years, how long can we spend time with them? another 30 years? 20, 10? if i'm aboard working and seek for a better life, how about them? My friend Raven put it so right,
Dad: Son, it is time for you to go out and learn ppl's life and work. You only have 1 life, you must make the best of it.
Raven: Yes, i only have 1 life, but i would like to take care of you and mum with this 1 life, coz it worth more than anything.

We only have 1 life, i want to see my brothers grow, i want to see them succeed, i want to be there for them. I don't want to be 500 miles away when they are down, when they blow their birthday cake. Being together worth more than giving a call from aboard saying Happy Birthday. I want to be there for my parents when they need me, i want to make them happy , i want to show them ... all the care and effort they put is worth... I'm a dad too.. i understand what a dad really want to see. I hope my son will succeed, i hope he will have a better life, Parents are so unconditional but what can a son do? Succeed and go away? come home for CNY? how many CNY can your dad survive? give money every month to them by paypal? As a son i try to think how to be successful and being with them here and now. This is what i'm spending my whole life working on. I want to be successful here, i want to be with my loved ones.
They said it's impossible, i say it is possible.

What the mind and conceive , The Mind can achieve.

People work so hard to earn money, i work so hard to be with my loved ones.

Different people, different walk of life, different perspective of life.

This is my Way of Life,

Protect My Pack, Grow my Colonies, Kill any enemies.