The Right Thing to do is not Always the Correct thing to do!!

When you’re a little boy, you are taught to do the right thing. To make the RIGHT judgment of things, What is not right is justify as a bad thing and avoid doing it. Things that have morale and things that doesn’t harm another are to be accepted as the RIGHT thing. The good person is the one doing all the RIGHT things. The bad people are the one doing all the WRONG things. Very very simple, easy to understand and by nature it is perfect. But as I grew up and turning to be an adult.

How do you define RIGHT and what is WRONG?

Something that consider right to you may be wrong to another. People bombing the twin tower consider as bad, but in another angle of view point they are actually protecting something, protecting their pride? To me Purple may be my favorite color but to you? You may think purple is gay. Can you make a stand to state something to everyone if you think what you think is RIGHT? YES!! Only you thought, it’s only based on your point of view, true or not it’s just an opinion  and if that opinion is accepted by the group than it is consider the RIGHT thing.

In the corporate world I am living in right now, you can’t do the RIGHT things every time. If It is not correct, you may silent or pass if something you think is wrong and you may want to correct it. Because correcting something without knowing the consequences may lead to the ultimate disaster. You may be outcasted from the group, or be condemn.  Just think for a while, if you are lost in a jungle and found a small village of jungle people. They bring you in and they all are eating raw fish and hate eating cooked fish, you suddenly jumped out and tell them that they are eating the fish the wrong way and you introduce your cooking method to them, will they listen to you? I mean it is the right way to eat a fish, correct? But to them? You are consider saved by them and they accepted you in their village and now you are trying to tell them that they are fools and their way of eating are wrong? It is like spitting them in the face, it is their culture. Their believe maybe that fish are brought to them by the gods and wishes them to eat it raw, but you insulted them. You insulted their gods. You insulted their believe.

In the modern world, this situation exist. We thought that we are civilized, we thought we are on the top of the world. But we are not, we are still what we are 1 thousand years ago. We do all this to protect ourselves, We label the RIGHT thing that we consider RIGHT, we label the WRONG thing that we consider WRONG, WE . Where is the ultimate truth?

Who can ultimately judge what is right and what is wrong? 

Do we blame it to GOD?

I learn that we may only need to speak up when we are needed to, we do not need to tell someone he/she is right or wrong all the time, sometimes it is best to let them be. It will be better that way, for both parties, for everyone. If everyone in the world may hold this, there will be no war or arguments, There will be peace. But the truth is always NO. Human are born with a greed, which is the human’s ultimate weakness, even Lord Of The Ring stated Human’s weakness is Greed. The one that may overcome greed will always be happy and lead a better life and a humble one.

To survive, we need to learn when to use the so called RIGHT thing and stand for it. When it is important to use it and when it is not. 

You can do it.!! but Y U NO DO??!!

I am born into a great loving family, everyone will admit his or her family to be the best and greatest of all. Some may seems weird and odd to another but hey, What's weird? and what's odd? We only see things different when we cannot accept or comprehend, perspective of a different man may give you a different rating of one family's weirdness to another and always admit that he have a great family.
I was told many times by friends and also family members...."you can play and teach guitar, go get out of here(M'sia) and go somewhere else, NZ/Australia/wherever you may get a better life and better pay then what you can get here in M'sia. " I heard these same words again and again since i'm 18. Even my dad suggested this.
To answer them it's easy, i'm not the type that will be in a dilemma. I always make my on decision and a fast chump that decide very fast which mislead it to everyone that ask me questions. They seems to think that i did not make any effort in thinking and considering the questions but actually i have gone through it before they even think of suggesting to me.And i will always get the same feedback of my answers, Y U NO DO??? Y U SO WASTE??!! (in their heart i think and assumed that they are thinking that i'm stupid or have knowledge whatsoever)
But the truth is, this might have abit of clash concept because this is only my opinion and concept of my very own, i'm not saying that this are the rule and the correct way, if you guys that is reading and following my blog this far, i know that you are here to seek raw information and point of view from me, I thank you so much and if for you that get offended after reading this i'm so sorry in advance, remember this is only my opinion.
I do not seek for outstation work and stay because i think there's no need to. I'm born here in M'sia and i'm going to stay here even if a comet is goin to drop right next door. I love my country. I love Melaka. If i'm good enough i can make a living here, if i want to prove that i'm very good i can make a fortune here in this very place. They said that the economy is going down, the politics is corrupt , the whole place is goin worst, but for me...my point of view is..M'sia is growing, for a country to move forward and grow, these are the issues and events that need to happen. If we look at the advance countries, we look at how good and well the country is, but we did not go and find out how they become this way. How many president in USA is shot? No corruption in Japan? I'm lucky to be in a growing country where all the fun is rather than a stagnant place where everything is well done and can't go anywhere more, if you like peace and no fun you may be happy there. Anyway i'm a Malaysian, I can do whatever i want to do here, i mean the legal stuffs. I can have my own company here and it doesn't cost me high capital. I know the language here and other stuffs, imagine trying to open a company and do business in Australia? or London? can you survive? Unless you're Jimmy Choo. LOL!! You can only work as a middle class worker in other country than you're own unless again if you're JImmy Choo. LOL (again)
ONe more thing why i don want to work and live outstation, The high pay? no i don't think it's high pay when i don't get to see my family, if i'm a solo guy without anyone that i loved then i don't care what i do or where i am, but in reality, i have a family. A loving family, i wan to spend my weekends with my mum and dad, how long can a human live? if not for 80 years, how long can we spend time with them? another 30 years? 20, 10? if i'm aboard working and seek for a better life, how about them? My friend Raven put it so right,
Dad: Son, it is time for you to go out and learn ppl's life and work. You only have 1 life, you must make the best of it.
Raven: Yes, i only have 1 life, but i would like to take care of you and mum with this 1 life, coz it worth more than anything.

We only have 1 life, i want to see my brothers grow, i want to see them succeed, i want to be there for them. I don't want to be 500 miles away when they are down, when they blow their birthday cake. Being together worth more than giving a call from aboard saying Happy Birthday. I want to be there for my parents when they need me, i want to make them happy , i want to show them ... all the care and effort they put is worth... I'm a dad too.. i understand what a dad really want to see. I hope my son will succeed, i hope he will have a better life, Parents are so unconditional but what can a son do? Succeed and go away? come home for CNY? how many CNY can your dad survive? give money every month to them by paypal? As a son i try to think how to be successful and being with them here and now. This is what i'm spending my whole life working on. I want to be successful here, i want to be with my loved ones.
They said it's impossible, i say it is possible.

What the mind and conceive , The Mind can achieve.

People work so hard to earn money, i work so hard to be with my loved ones.

Different people, different walk of life, different perspective of life.

This is my Way of Life,

Protect My Pack, Grow my Colonies, Kill any enemies.

Charity for Balance

What have you done so far in your life? From your first work, your first accumulated money, from your first serves in society. Who do you think most? Who do you work for? Obviously most of the people will answer or in their hearts knew it is they themselves that is the most important one.

You work for yourself.

You work to have money, to buy or acquire things. Most of the people do nowadays. It’s no shame to admit but you can be proud to be doing.

I have been doing that for many years. I worked as hard as possible. I saved money as much as possible. I bought things that I want, and think of myself most of the time.

But I don’t feel satisfied. Why? I thought if I saved enough money to buy the things that I want. I can be happy but why this feeling? Why the happiness can’t last long? I can only be happy for no more than 1 day on a new purchased guitar. Why?

I have been searching for this answer for some time and now I knew. I still don’t understand 100% but I knew something is missing. Something is not enough. I read many success books that I can get, I hear as many audiobooks that I can get. I noticed something. Most of the books mentioned almost the same values with new or different points of view but they all didn’t miss this one thing. This one thing that I have overlooked. Such a simple thing.

“Charity”

If it’s not important, why Robert T of Rich Dad mentioned about saving $1 for investment , $1 for savings and $1 for charity?  Why all the rich men do charity? Why is it important for them? To us that wants to be like them but failed only follows what is seems important…. Accumulate money, budget, do not spend, get more assets… but they did not follow and do charity. They overlooked, just like me. But I have awaken, I have learned my lessons. I now wants to seek more information on this charity’s Magic. I want to study it. Learn the magic behind it.

Magic, I have told by a friend. Consider a wise man to me, he said that people do charity for many reason and the word itself serves many meanings. It may be in form of money, help & etc but it must be unconditional. A sincere one. It was to make a balance.

Balance.

We humans can’t  go for extremes, we will destroy/sabotage ourself. Once we get to extreme. We need balance. We live in a world of day and night,  We believe in Yin Yang. We need a balance. What we get , we need to give some out to seek balance. Balance.

I need balance……

I thought I can go for extreme. But I’m not born that way. I need to be human. What I need to do now is to make lemonade out of my given lemon….

Madman's Bubble ..act 1

What is life?

We have been searching for the answer of this question all the time…sometimes we got it..sometimes we think we got it, actually did we get it? As you Google around ..you may find that life is nothing but a word to describe a duration lived by a living thing.

So… we come to another question…. What is life for? Or What is the purpose of life?

Some Indian monk might tell you that the Purpose of life is a life of purpose…or something like like there’s no meaning to life…life is beyond meaning..life is what you live of it….Yes yes yes…. Clever stories we human will tell ourselves… motivate ourselves ….reason ourselves…..That’s what we human do….when we can’t accept the truth or find the truth we make something up to solve it. If we can blame the tools why blame ourselves for the fault and problems we have…Tools have no pride..humans do

We all came to the bottom end… I mean most of us… “life’s sucks” ,”I hate life” “I should have die when I was born”. Simple quotes used a million times a day from people all over the world…yet.. Some will end their life due to major depression.

We worked so hard, people earn and save so hard….yet die before they can enjoy the life they wished too….or wish they not? Procrastinating? They blame the sky taken them away as not fair…but is it they have taken things for granted? Like humans every questions have an answer….to motivate…to reason…. Is money that important? Or is it only a trend? Who create the trend? Humans? We lived by our own rules yet said the creator of another higher being that have set us all up?

Can we know what is happening tomorrow? Can we know next 2 years? Do we know the next minute?  We do not know, we can only predict….prediction is not reality… A great predictor is just as good as the past prediction assumed as a coincidence. What do you need to do? What is the truth?

What is REALITY? Death is not popular….cause we don’t care about it, we are afraid of it….. humans are afraid of what they don’t know…..Afraid of the dark…afraid of the unknown…That is why we spend our whole life searching for the unknown….conquering all we can have and see so we can have 1 thing in control… We want to control FREEDOM….

Is life ..Freedom?

Or we seek freedom in life?

If you have Freedom…Are you afraid?

What is right and what is wrong? Is black, black. Is white, white? Is Freedom, Freedom?

What is going on in a madman’s head? What is he thinking of? How is he thinking? What is his reality? Are we the same? Only that we have a common reality that linked us up? Are we mad on the madman’s eye? The madman’s brain? Can we think like him? Will we think like him?

Are you afraid?

Are you afraid of your life?

Are you afraid of your future?

Empty Your Tea Cup – Ego Eliminating

I have in my whole life searching and learning for more guitar skills and the whole music world, I downloaded, buys and asked many for this information. In the beginning I would say that I learn like a dry sponge soaking water from a water full tub.

And guess what? The graph of my learning got down peak, it got down peak so great it almost hit rock bottom!!!

Why?

I can say, during my school years it was easy and time was a little kind at that time, half days of school and no other commitments I have half the day through to learn practice the guitar. That was the golden age, my skill and knowledge multiply like an active spread of bacteria in a dead cow’s body….(what a metaphor…muahahahah). NOW, I can’t even learn anything new….okok, understood.. adulthood, fatherhood , husbandhood…etc etc etc 

STOP!!!! Get caught up?? Is That what I’m saying?

No, that is just a reason. An easy answer to cheat myself on believing the truth.  What is the truth? I have been looking for this a long time and I finally hit the spot. YES!!! Eureka!!! I knew this all along but why can’t I accept it? It’s only a matter of time when you put your commitment to search for something and it finally pops out!!

Listen before from Bruce Lee? You need to empty your cup of tea before learning anything new. If your cup is still full, the more tea flow into the cup the more the tea will overflow and be wasted. All the while I was learning from Guitar magazines and books downloaded are all wasted. My cup of tea wasn’t empty, I bring with me the ego when learning. I always learn like, I’ll skip this cause I knew it already or this is not important. That’s wrong, Repetition is the mother of skill.

This video will explain more

Actually the more you repeat in learning something and be very humble, learning 1 or 2 things from a book is more than enough. Now I will dust out all the old lessons that I miss all this time and put in into good use….

The Money Concept

To be frank, i stupid when it comes to money matters.

WHen i was in standard 3, primary school i was called up by a local magician showing the kids around with his lame predictable illusions up on stage. Then he told me that he is going to show me how he is going to turn 2 pieces of damn cheap toilet tissues into real money. He was going to give me the money, so he ask me to make a choice. Either RM1, RM10 or RM50.

I told him RM1, "HUH?" responded the magician . DO you really want RM1? he asked again.

With my spongebob eyes waiting for the excitement for the magic act, i nodded yes.

He then flip the tissues into a small pieces make a few Adacadrabra....POP!

the tissues are now the RM1, called me off the stage and get anothet kid up on stage...The other kid ended up with the RM50. My dad ask me, Why RM1?

I was curious why everyone is upset and mad at me because i choose RM1 instead of RM50.

They said i will have problems with money when i grow older. That time that choice was made for the love of the show, i was not aiming for the money but to witness the power of magic...that's all... so i'm wrong? I was curious with the adult's reaction on that day till now. Was it wrong for a pure kid to only really wants to enjoy the show and nothing else? Must every kid taught to be greedy in Money?

I my later teenage years and early adulthood, money became important. Whatever you need , needs money. Now your status in life is measured by money. I worked day & night for the accumulation for money hoping someday i will be rich.

RICH

What define rich? Having great wealth? Having RM1 billion in the bank? Having a BIG house and rockstar Car? IS THAT ALL CAN BE CLAIMED AS RICH?

As my life have the ups and downs like every other person, i began to analyse this so called RICH. Looks like if i would ever wans to come near to Bill Gates, even i work 2 jobs a day in this current state, I WILL NEVER BE 10% AS RICH AS HIM. NEVER

NEVER

= a word to describe something that will not happen at all.

RICH = can be measure only by money?

I was stuck.... I lost hope....I was never going to be rich as i calculated.

Then I realized...... RICHNESS is not only money....

MONEY IS JUST A MEDIUM

OUR Money in our pockets are actually borrowed loan currency by our country to some rich man.

Our Money is going down on value every time the clock ticks. Money is just an idea.

It's just a piece of paper believed that it's value by people.

Even if you have it, it's own by someone else....

I lived my whole life workin like a dog for this IDEA?

COme on man.....!!!!

Why don't i use this idea to my benefits?

I changed my mindset to money...

Money is not the one i work for everyday i'm at work workin my ass off.

I was doing for something else..... Some other richness i would say...

THINK & GROW RICH

Self-Realization > How Far Have you Gone?

I have experienced many times of realization that i'm a failure.

During my primary school times, i'm a boy with low self confidences and self esteem.

Born with 1 eye that can't really sees and a black ear. I'm always ashame of it.

I would hide myself from others and have only a few close friends.

I'm always the one getting the back sit and the one doing all the hard stuffs in class.(dust the blackboard, carry the chairs..etc..) I'm always the outcast of any group. No teacher care much for a boy that walks to school and have no character.

During that time, even i have a few friends i doubt they really are my friends. Maybe they are just using me to help them buy food or buy stuffs that require you to stuff in a crowd.

Even i knew it, i play along. 10 years old boy, i needed friends.

During my secondary, i got beaten up in the first week of schools by bullies. I have no friends that time. I was alone with new classmate that ran when the bullies came. I hide from them every lunch time in the library. Always afraid to go to school.

In my 21st year, i always have problem gaining new friends or meeting adults. I always have the feeling that they will look bad at me.

I can't make it...I care too much of what people think about me.

Even i can play the guitar, my low confidences is to much that i'm afraid to let people knew i can.

Until 1 day,

I woke up in the morning, A sunny Sunday morning. Birds chirping.

I opened my eyes and i started to Realize....

I started to see what i failed to see....

Everybody is the same...

Everyone is afraid....

Everyone that i thought is ahead actually is not...

Everyone that i'm afraid of them actually they are afraid themselves....

What is keeping me down and low is myself....my own mind....

If i don't love myself...how do you expect others to love you?

If you don't believe in yourself.... who is going to believe you?

If you don't give yourself confidence ...... who is going to give you?

God? Higher Being? The Titans? Thor?

No one is going to ... But yourself...

After that morning... i told myself...

Now nobody is better then you....

You're always NUMBER One...

Until today.... the puzzle came more and more that the people that i thought are great last time is now actually more poor than me.

It's like i suddenly step on a confidence booster pedal....

I felt so good now....

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