Losing it All....

Are you the man of your words?

Do you cared about what other people say about you?

Are you doing the things in life that you wanted for yourself?

I’m a Chinese man from a Chinese cultured family, so as my dad, so as my grandfather, so as my mum, so as her parents and families. Chinese are full with customs, don’t cut your nails at night or don’t point at the moon…superstitions…bunch of them. I guess other cultures too…

But in this modern world, human tend to go back and search for their true selves. Meaning to say that everyone now wanted to do what they wanted even it is against their culture or families’ best practices. For example me, I’m from a family that everyone needs to work hard and long to earn money so you can have a car , a house and a family of your own to be successful in the bigger family and consider accepted. It makes sense for me when I’m still in the small world of my own, but it gets funny when I grew older and made discoveries over time. You don’t have to do that, that is just a trend that the industrial ages made up to protect the rich being richer and the middle class to continue produce middle working class people for them to work. My dad is a middleclass working class guy, a pure one. He works and spend, but I can see that he wanted to get out of the circle in that rat race but failed a few times and I think that he put up the white flag, to me it is because he did not invest his time to study well in how to do business and just invest in money and hope everything to turn out right, that is the reason why every 90% of new companies closed down after 3 years.

Back to the culture story, here I am achieving everything I could. 2 cars, a house, a family, so now? Now what? Can I go do what I want to do?(sit down and play guitar everyday?) No..i can’t I’m so into the culture stuff that even that I knew but it seems that I wanted to be….to have all that to feel better. Can I just lose it all, travel to Tibet and be a monk? Can you lose everything you have now?

Will you?

Can you give up everything when you are half way through?

What will happen if you really do it? Will you live another life? DO you have courage to make this change? If you can’t change from listening to pop songs to heavy metal, how can you change your life? Can you stop smoking overnight?

Shit happens.>…But if you know how to control the shit….they might happen differently and you are prepared…Prepared to accept the Shits………

Shits can be cruel…shit can be hot or cold…. They can fuckup your life any way they want and if you let them let loose….You’re in a lot of trouble…

So now what? 

Give peace a chance? 

John Lennon? 

Yoko Ono? 

Or plain Paul? 

Money or life? 

Definite Chief Aim

I heard this in Napoleon hill's Book, The Law Of Success.
He said that if we have a goal, we will be better in achieving it rather then to float around the world aimlessly. It's such a waste of time and yet time is not much for a person to live.

My Boss , once told me a way to set goals in life. She said, when you turn 70 and died. In your funeral you would have your spouse and friend or relatives talked about you, talking about your personality and the way of life you have been going through. So the question is....

What would you want them to say?

You might say, i'm already dead. How am i suppose to tell them? Yes we can control what would be coming out from their minds that day, when the day comes of course. For example....

If you want your wife/husband to speak of you as a loving husband/wife and a friendly and kind person. Well.... you need to be that person starting today. All of that , that you want them to say on that day, will be your goals in life.
Just like "Tuesday with Morrie" taught us. "When we are dying , we learn how to live." So imagine that day, what you want them to say, then make that your definite chief aims starting today... Not tomorrow... Today..

(Now or Never)

There's too many things to explore and see in this life... You would not want to wander all and get nothing in the end. You would want to know what you want in life and make it your aim, then achieve it. When you achieve it, you would most satisfy and die a happy man..for money is not the most important thing in life and yet the importancy is only a limit from our onw minds. Our minds which sets the limits of the sky and the world.

So know what you want.

Get a plan to achieve it.

Consistently moving towards it

Achieve it.

(easy like 1 2 3 ?)

Cybernetic Gorilla Vs Old Age

Heard of the death of my friend’s grandfather, RIP age 100+.

I always visit my wife’s grandmother aged 100+, when I looked at her, paying attention to her movements and the way she looked at people. It seems that she have gone back into childhood. Way back from childhood, like a baby. When the time that we can’t survive on our own. That we need to depend on people for our existence.  She can’t walk on her own, she can’t see properly, her memory system is full thus she can’t remember or recall anything. Just like an old PC, hard disk are taking a long time to read and store and memory is always full.

I reflect it to myself, how a strong and healthy man like me can 1 day be old and will need to depend on people to survive. Now I can live all by myself, I can survive and with no one’s help I can live through only to find myself alone and wanting a partner. But still I can survive. But a baby can’t survive on it’s own, the baby need someone to take care to survive, if not he’ll die.

What if you are old, and found out that you can’t walk on your own?

Can’t  see what is in front of you, permanently?

Can’t remember what you did 2 minutes ago?

Can’t hug your loved ones?

Can’t go to the toilet by yourself?

Can’t eat by yourself?

Just waiting for life’s end while others continue on in the world that once you have journey too.

Are you afraid?

Are you afraid to get old?

Everyone will get old, so there’s no way to avoid getting old unless you did the rockstar thing. Kill yourself before you get old. SO what do you think we should do?

Appreciate Life and Enjoy it because you will get old.

Is 60 consider old? Or 80? Or 90? 100?

You retired at 55, so you got about a few years left before you can go skating youself. SO use your time wisely. Don’t  sleep so much, come out and enjoy the world, stop sitting in front of a book face website and forget about life. Get angry, get happy, get sad, get weird, get wicked , feel everything…

Before you can’t feel anything….